Christian Carter of Catch Him and Keep Him interviewed famed online dating coach Evan Marc Katz recently. From that interview, Christian Carter gleaned some great tips for singles about how manage online dating and your membership to online dating sites.

The first aspect of online dating that Katz talks about is how to write your online profile so that it gets the attention of those people you want to attract. One of those ways is to first LOSE the adjectives. Go to any online dating site and you will find that 95% of the profiles use adjectives to describe themselves such as “nice, warm, caring, funny, family oriented, looking for a lifelong partner, honest, successful, blah blah blah”. Ok – but what does that actually TELL you about he person behind the words? Not a thing.

Instead, create an actual description of yourself in your online profile by using stories and anecdotes about yourself. Tell the other singles something like, “I’m the kind of gal who makes friends with the trash collector on my morning walk” or “Not only do I love the typical ‘long walk on the beach’ but I occasionally stalk sand-crabs with a flashbulb and digital camera!” So paint a picture, compel them, illustrate yourself in a unique but truthful manner and your profile will be smoking hot!

Another great topic Katz and Christian Carter discussed was how to actually craft a compelling email when you find a man online that you want to contact. This is incredibly important because you have one chance to make that man want to read your profile and respond to you. You must stand out from all the other singles in the online world. The flip side to this – you cannot make him think you WANT HIM more than he will want you.

Katz tells Christian Carter that in order to “Catch Him and Keep Him” you have to make that man think he is lucky to be hearing from you. According to Evan Marc Katz – when you are trying to impress someone, you actually come off as unimpressive, even desperate. Make your initial email short – and make him smile. Find something in his online profile that you can PICK on and bust his balls over it (in a totally playful way). Then stop! Sign off – bait the hook and wait.

After you start getting hits on your profile, you need to start weeding out the good seeds from the bad. Take it slow and take the time to screen your potential dates up front. Christian Carter agrees with Evan, saying a woman can never be too careful in the online dating world, and to never go out with a man simply because he is pressuring you to meet him face to face. Meet him where you are comfortable. One great way is to meet your date for lunch instead of the typical evening date. If you can’t do lunch, then go for coffee first, or meet in the park on a Saturday afternoon or some other socially safe situation.

One more “screening” tip – when you are asking your new contact questions, don’t be obvious about the answer you want. What do I mean? If you want to know if he is looking to get serious, ask him instead if he is looking for a casual relationship. He will be more than happy to tell you he is if he thinks you are as well, otherwise, he will tell you what you WANT to hear. Be crafty! There is nothing wrong with that, and it will save you a lot of heartache in the end.

Maureen Arnold
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Christian Dating Tips: How to land your ideal mate

Here are some Christian dating tips to help you zero in on the man or woman of your dreams. While dating someone of the same faith, it’s just so easy to let your guard down because you think you are with a person who supposedly shares the same values. The truth is dating has its own risks whether it’s with a Christian or a non-Christian, so your primary concern should be how to protect yourself while enjoying the company of interesting men and women.

Christian Dating Do’s and Don’ts

Top of the list of our Christian dating tips is to never reveal too much information about yourself until you get to know the person well and are sure that he or she can be trusted. Enjoy the process and take your time to find out about someone’s personality and values to see if they match yours. You wouldn’t want just anyone looking up your name in the telephone directory and tracking you down.

If you sign up for an online Christian dating service, it’s perfectly normal to create a fun new name to protect yours, and an email specifically for the purpose. This allows you to chat freely without feeling too open and also gives you the chance to incorporate your personality into that name like Harley Henry or Salsa Summer; this can also be an ice breaker when you get chatting. As you get to know the person, you can open up about yourself more as and when you feel.

Another note to take from Christian dating tips is remembering God and his wishes of saving yourself for marriage, this is one of the teachings of the Christian faith. Avoid being in a compromising situation that might lead to an uncomfortable situation and remind your date of Gods wishes, in fact just don’t allow yourself to get there! If you are a guy, don’t pressure a woman to become intimate before marriage, think of your faith and how God will feel; he is always watching! Intimacy can be a wonderful thing in the style of cuddles, kisses, and just feeling as one with a person.

If you’re a woman, be interesting and let the person know you are open to a more serious relationship, but never, ever, initiate the first moves. Female members of Christian dating sites may find themselves overwhelmed by emails and phone calls. Reply to them graciously, but more importantly don’t pester any guy to go out with you. Guys easily lose interest if they think a woman seems too eager to hook up with them because they don’t see much of a challenge there. It also comes across as if you are desperate which is a put off. Start with making friends and see what comes naturally.

Also, when you’re exploring the Christian dating scene, don’t limit yourself to just one person and immediately build your hopes around him or her, but rather chat with several people. When you think you have found the one who you feel compliments your personality and values and the feeling is reciprocated, that’s the time you date this person exclusively.

If a guy or woman you are interested in resists your attention, don’t force the issue. Maybe the person thinks that you don’t have much in common, or maybe he or she is attracted to someone else. Move on and meet other individuals that are more like you. Dating can be a tricky and frustrating situation, especially if you know what you want but can’t seem to find someone who meets your expectations. Don’t despair, if you follow these Christian dating tips, you will be on your way to catching the man or woman that is worth keeping. Remember to relax and enjoy yourself, and remember, along your journey you are spreading the faith so God will be there to guide you in your search for that special someone one!

Job 6:8 (NIV)

Oh! That I might have my request, that God would grant what I hope for!